Back to School Blues or Something More?

Why the First Weeks Feel Hard

New classes, different teachers, shifting friendships — the return to school stirs up nerves for most children. A little clinginess, irritability, or “I don’t want to go” is natural. It’s what we often call the “back to school blues.”

But sometimes, the discomfort lingers, deepens, or shows up in ways that hint at something more serious. Recognizing the difference matters because early support can prevent children from struggling alone.

“A little worry is part of growing up. Persistent dread is a signal to pay closer attention.”

When It’s Probably Just Adjustment

Mild nerves usually fade as routines settle in. Some common signs of normal adjustment include:

• Complaining about school in the first week or two.
• Feeling tired or cranky as they adapt to early mornings.
• Minor stomach aches that disappear once the school day begins.
• Occasional clinginess at drop-off, but quick recovery once inside.

These usually ease within a few weeks as the child finds their rhythm.

When It Might Be More

Persistent changes beyond the adjustment phase may signal anxiety or depression. Watch for:

• Ongoing sleep problems or frequent nightmares.
• Stomach aches or headaches that occur most mornings and don’t ease up.
• Withdrawal from friends or activities once enjoyed.
• Sudden drop in grades or concentration.
• Constant dread or refusal to attend school long after term starts.
• Expressions of hopelessness or self-criticism.

These are not “just phases.” They may point to deeper distress that needs gentle, sustained attention.

How Parents and Teachers Can Respond

1. Create Space to Talk

Ask open-ended questions: “What was the hardest part of today?” instead of “Did you have a good day?” This helps children share more than yes/no answers.

2. Validate Feelings

Avoid dismissing with “Don’t be silly, everyone has to go.” Instead say: “I hear that you’re nervous. Lots of kids feel this way, and it can get easier.”

3. Notice Patterns

Keep a simple diary of sleep, mood, and school complaints. If worries persist or worsen, this record helps professionals understand what’s happening.

4. Collaborate With School

Teachers see patterns parents may miss. Share observations and ask if changes are noticeable in the classroom.

5. Seek Professional Support

If distress continues beyond a few weeks or interferes with daily life, reaching out to a counselor or child psychologist can make a big difference.

Breaking the Stigma Around Kids’ Mental Health

In many families, children’s distress is brushed off as laziness, stubbornness, or “bad behavior.” But mental health challenges in children are real — and support, not shame, is what helps them grow resilient.

“Children don’t act out to annoy us. They act out to show us something inside hurts.”

Helping Kids Find Their Balance Again

Transitions will always be bumpy. But when “back to school blues” refuse to fade, compassion and attention are the keys. By spotting early signs of anxiety or depression, we can help children not only return to school but also return to themselves — curious, capable, and ready to grow.